part 3 of 3
Okay, perhaps
you have guessed how the story ends. You are probably right but there
are a few unknown twists and turns. The main point of this series:
forging forever families, whether with birth or adoptive children and
family members. That adoption is an amazing way to form one’s family.
And that in the end, forgiveness and love are what matters.
This
series has comedy and quirky moments, a theme song or two, many other
family-oriented storylines and more and special moments that were
undeniable life lessons. One of the translated titles is Unexpected You—quite
descriptive of what happens in losing a child, finding a child, finding
a child in an orphanage (or foster care!), and finding room for a child
in one’s heart. Even finding the courage to decide to parent. Sometimes
the prospect of loving beyond the borders of one’s life brings an
“unexpected you”. Unexpected love. Unexpected parent or child.
Unexpected other family. Unexpected life.
Reflecting on how many
“unexpected you” youth wait in foster care—whether in group homes or
foster homes, who dare to dream of a forever family, a forever home, I
think the elements of this drama didn’t just make for good television
(whatever the language), it makes for great perspective!
I agree--58 whole episodes with subtitles is a lot to tackle. It’s not Downton Abbey
but it had special charm for me. Since adoption is a major topic in my
life, I allowed myself the luxury of watching. I realize that all adopted
children experience Family—Times Two, whether or not they ever meet or
live with their birth family. I learned things about myself and my own
angst. I know our daughter is in touch with her birth family. I know she
had enjoyed coming to know them. I know she exhibits Nature a lot
(although sometimes—rather unexpectedly—Nurture finds its way in,
too). I applaud her because I also know that she works hard not to pit
one of her families against the other. So I work hard not to feel
intimidated that she has two families. This drama taught me to celebrate
even the unexpected in adoption. To not be afraid to wear blue jeans, a
plaid shirt and vest—to be comfortable, casual and so myself, no matter
that she has family, times two—when we are together I let her know how
happy I am to see and be with my daughter.
Friday, October 12, 2012
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